10 Tips for Planning the Perfect Bachelorette / hen Party

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Are you in charge of a bachelorette party for a bride-to-be? Don’t stress. Planning and throwing a hen party can be a lot of fun. Follow these tips to get the most out of a bachelorette party for someone you love.


Post sponsored by Le Petit Chateau Quirky Wedding Venues North East.

Interview the bride!

Always keep in mind that the bachelorette herself should be the focus of the party. That is not about what you or your guests want but rather what will celebrate the bride.

Take some time to ask the bride what her ideas are for the perfect pre-wedding celebration. Some brides love to sip champagne through penis-shaped straws until they can’t see straight. Others might want a relaxing time with friends or to experience something new.

Find out what type of party the bride would enjoy. Ask whether she would want alcohol served, and be sure to get her permission before you consider anything like a stripper or adult entertainment.

Ask the bride for the guest list.

You don’t have to give the bride the details of the party, but she should be the person to provide the guest list. She will know whom to include.

Keep the list short if possible. The best bachelorette parties consist of fewer than 15 guests, and an even smaller group can be better still. Every adult woman in the bridal party should be included, as well as any future sisters-in-law.

Traditional etiquette says you must only invite people to wedding-related parties if they also are invited to the wedding. Some ignore this advice when planning a bachelorette party, but keep in mind that you are risking offending people this way.

If you do invite guests not invited to the wedding, do not ask them to contribute money toward the party or to bring gifts.

Respect budgets.

Usually, each guest at a bachelorette party pays for herself plus an extra portion to cover the bride. An alternative to this plan is that the bridesmaids split the total cost of the festivities.

Be sure you speak to each bridesmaid about money before doing any planning. Some bridesmaids might easily be able to afford three days in Las Vegas, while others will not be able to sacrifice much more than the expense of a few drinks and decorations. Bridesmaids should not have to take out a loan to help pay for the bachelorette party. If someone cannot afford your ideas, either scale down the party or find a way to cover that person’s portion.

If you are asking guests to chip in, be sure to include the expenses on the invitation or make it clear that guests will need to pay for their rooms, drinks, and transportation.

Make a group decision.

It’s much easier to plan a party when you have other people to help you. Getting all the bridesmaids involved in the plans will mean you’ll have less work to do.

If you are asking for help from the bridesmaids, be sure to ask them their ideas and opinions. The party will need an organizer, but it’s best when everyone is working together with the same goal in mind. Keeping everyone involved also avoids hurt feelings that can ruin a wedding day.

Create a detailed plan.

You don’t have to account for every minute, but it’s best to have some details set in stone. Instead of just telling everyone to meet up at a casino, make a dinner reservation or get tickets to a show.

That is especially true if the party is going to be over a weekend. Be sure to send everyone a list of each planned activity, including where and when to meet.

Plan surprises.

The bride-to-be will probably know that she’s going to her bachelorette party, and she will probably know who is going to be there. Other than those details, you are free to surprise her.

Blindfold her before leading her to her favorite restaurant, or place a hundred colorful balloons in her hotel room. Surprises are fun, so get creative and go out of your way to make the party special for her.

Dress up.

You want to plan your attire for a bachelorette party. You can choose to provide a tacky veil to single out the bride-to-be, and you can wear sashes announcing your title in the wedding party.

A more low-key option is to have guests wear the same color, like navy, while the bride wears a contrasting shade such as hot pink.

If you want to make a statement, then wear costumes. You can go with a theme or just buy some silly props like boas, wigs, and capes.

Remember transportation.

The best way to navigate a bachelorette party is to hire a limousine or car to take you out. That will keep everyone together and take guests safely from one place to the next.

If you are going to be drinking and cannot provide a car, make sure guests have contact information for cabs or ask non-drinking friends to be designated drivers.

Make social media rules.

If you think the party may get wild, be sure to let everyone know ahead of time what they can and cannot post on social media. You could cause severe complications in the bride’s life if she has to explain inappropriate pictures to her boss or grandmother.

Ask the groom for a contribution.

Let the groom know where you will be, and encourage him to flowers or a special gift delivered to his bride-to-be. After all, the wedding is a celebration of their love, and it will make her feel good to have a reminder of him.

If you think the bride would enjoy it, you could even plan to have the groom and his friends crash the party for a little while. Let them stay for an hour or so, and then send them somewhere else.

It’s an honor to throw a bachelorette party, so you should seize the opportunity to have a great time with it. As long as you consider the desires of the bride, you can go crazy creating the perfect setting where she can have the time of her life.

Start with these 10 tips to throw a bachelorette party that the bride and your guests will love.


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