The Emotions Behind a Proposal

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There are many emotional moments in life that are forever remembered and cherished throughout your life. These moments show up in your photos, at events, weddings, birthdays, anniversaries, baptisms and so many other other places and we always go back to them. But what about all the time and effort that goes into planning something amazing? How does the person planning a proposal feel and what does he go through before the big question is popped?

We are all victims of happiness and we all love being happy. Who wouldn’t! Being a young couple in love seems to be one of the most beautiful things in the world. When two souls unite and start creating a life as a unison working and striving to be better is an amazing journey. They say it is not what you have in life but rather who you have in your life to share it with, and we couldn’t agree with that more. When we are invited to a wedding and we are witnesses to the union of two people we always seem to smile. We all wear our best suit and our prettiest dress to a wedding. We celebrate with music, food, and dancing. How does that moment come to be? With a proposal. A gentleman decides to propose and goes through a lot of emotional moments before he proposes. This is dedicated to the men that have and will propose and how they came to this amazing life-changing decision.

When it comes to two people uniting their lives it usually starts with an engagement. We have all seen the beautiful images that are posted on social media with a ring and one happy lady. These images have a meaning and as soon as we see the hand showing off an engagement ring and the gestures that we are all familiar with we can be certain that the reason behind the moment is that there was a proposal and the female part accepted and is now basking in the glory. Being engaged is something to be happy about. It doesn’t happen often, probably once in a lifetime.

The couples that get engaged share a very strong high for a while. The stronger the love, the stronger the high. This wave is ridden for a while and it will forever be remembered and told over and over, as the story of how he proposed. But what about the story behind the proposal. These stories of pure joy are what the world is all about. If most people found this much happiness the world would be a better place.

Behind that image of the ring, there is a story that did not begin the moment you were announced or the moment you first saw the photo on the social platform used by the happy couple. Absolutely not. The moment probably began a very long time ago and it was one crazy, emotion-filled pre-ride that the future hope-to-be-groom went on all by his lonesome.

Since the beginning of time men have done many wonderful things to make their other half as happy as possible. Here is a story about what a man goes trough pre-proposal, the road to asking “Will you be my wife?”

Our stories all start differently of course, but yet similar. Take one single man walking around in one scenario or another, minding his own business. In a struck of luck, destiny works it’s magic and either through some miracle, through a friend, at your local coffee shop, social media or any other number of ways, he meets the girl of his dreams.

For most men, meeting the girl of his dream creates a “rip in the time continuum” and he is forever changed. That is the beauty of falling in love, it catches you off guard.

The relationship is something new and different altogether from anything he was ever experienced.

A light courtship begins and the relationship slowly deepens and roots are made with beautiful memories.

When a man decides to propose you have to understand that he has not (probably) done this very often and is filled with strong emotions, of happiness and even fear of rejection. After all, they do call it a ‘proposal”, one may deny if not interested. As with everything that is new there is bound to be a lot of emotions.

So here he is a man in love and happy. Falling deeper and deeper he begins to realize that this individual is perfect in his perception and is ready to commit on a different level than he ever has before.

Most men are different from one another and with as with all different characters that surround every relationship they tend to act in a different way. We are referring to a large picture where most men can find a part in our journal of how men propose and relate to the emotions that go into proposing to the woman of “your” dreams.

So congratulations are in order on finding the woman you are ready to spend the rest of your life with. It is a big step, a first step.

Now we have a man that is creating a big elaborate plan to create a special moment for the woman he loves. There is planning involved and he usually has to do all the planning in a very secretive mode so that the female does not pick up on anything. Since women are very perceptive this part is always the trickiest one – keeping discretion.

The first order of business is to pick out a perfect engagement ring. Not only is this decision a rather though one, he also has to be sneaky about it as well. Trying to find a ring on your lunch break is not as easy as one might think. He is not buying a suit! He is purchasing one of the most expensive items that he ever will apart from a car and a house probably.

Once you decide to start looking you might find yourself a bit euphoric and joyful. Panic sets in most men when they realize just how many ring models there are out there. Finding the right ring for your significant other can be very hectic. What type of diamond shape would she prefer? Should you choose white gold or yellow gold? What size should the diamond be? Well, that is an easy one, as big as you can afford!

The documentation on all engagement rings begins! All of a sudden you are a professional jewel. It should not be taken lightly and some research should be made before deciding on what type of ring to choose.

Since most women wear their engagement rings forever, along with their wedding bands, making sure it is a ring that she will love is very important. Imagine wearing the same shirt forever! It better be one great shirt, wouldn’t you say so?

If he does not know her ring size, and he probably does not, a lot of sneaking around her jewelry box will be happening. Imagine how the male feels when he is snooping around her rings to get an idea of the right ring size? The adrenaline of getting caught is real. What would you tell the love of your life is she catches you in her jewelry box? It would be better to tell her that you are robbing her rather than ruining the surprise!

The next part for most men is deciding when to propose. We rarely think about the planning that does into choosing the right spot. We all see the final outcome and smile. The effort is lost in the moment and the “ring” takes over making it her moment. We all seem to overlook the nights of thoughts that go into choosing the perfect location!

Being a male that is planning to propose, keeping that secret when you are spending time with the woman you love is difficult. Smiling when you are both watching a movie and some actor plays his part and proposes makes him smirk, but he can not say why!

So he has decided the “where” part, now he must choose the “when”? Timing as we know is a little bit tricky. Proposing is pretty much a Hollywood massive production. If the proposal will happen in a remote spot where just the couple is present it will be a little bit easier without the eyes of others on him.

If the proposal will take place in a more public venue then there will be a lot of bystanders with eyes directed at the moment. It is normal for people to be curious. After all, you are the one that decided to make it public, so you have to accept other eyes on you on your big moment.

Actually, in all honesty, even if it is the male that is down on his knee it is still the woman that everyone is looking at. Anticipating her reaction and answer.

What if the woman is the type of person that would want her family there for when the proposal would happen? Well then the plot thickens because there will be more than a third party involved in your big proposal! Now here he is discretely contacting her family. He has to make sure that they will all be able to keep it on the down low so that they do not ruin his plan. Having a ruined plan will make all of the efforts that went into planning the proposal to have been in vain.

Now comes the big moment that you have been secretly working on, the proposal. As she is randomly speaking and unaware of the upcoming event you have to hide your emotions and play the scenario you have chosen, with or without bystanders and get down on one knee with the text he has ready.

This moment will most likely make her very silent as Hollywood has taught us. All ladies know that a proposal is near when a man is on his knees. Her reaction will be to take her hand and cover her surprised expression and cover her mouth. He starts speaking and she starts crying. Most women don’t even hear what the men are saying because of all the euphoric adrenaline that is emanating from their bodies. This is a good thing.

Here we have a man on his knees and a woman that is ecstatic. Her answer is “yes” and they kiss and hug. From that moment the day is all about her. That is the male’s intention from the beginning. Seeing his road down to getting on one knee is truly awakening.

TO ALL THE MEN OUT THERE, congratulations on your discretion and for creating one of the most beautiful memories your significant other will ever feel. Being a man is not all fun and games. In unique moments like these, we have to Salute and Thank all the men out there for all of the effort and hard work they go through. They do this all knowing that once the proposal is made the day will be all about the female… and they never complained once about all the work they put into the proposal.

So much for him leaving the toilet seat up!

 

 is a writer and enthusiast of all things wedding planning to tie the knot. He works for and loves promoting Le Petite Chateau wedding venue in the North East UK.

 


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Sean Benfield

I'm a writer and avid enthusiast of all things to do with weddings, planning getting married and wedding venues. I live and work on the beautiful Northumberland coast in the North East of the UK.